Be your own Celeb- Conclusion

Hi guys, how has the week been so far, mine has just been  there nothing exciting maybe that's why i've not been so motivated to post, sorry about that. Who missed me... miss you guys though *battling lashes

Anyway, hope my last post was helpful in someways. Here's the concluding part to "be your own celeb", so here we go; after taking a look at the package(the outlook, they fashion style), its also important to make sure that the container is also of great and enviable standard(the inner beauty that stands one out).

The point i'm trying to make is that, its enough to wear the good clothing and have the right outlook but its also very important to have the right self esteem to carry the outward beauty.
Lemme refer to a part from my previous post http://olufunkesway.blogspot.com/2013/07/be-friend-to-have-friend-part2.html for instance, many young people try to be accepted by their peers(which i think is ok) but most time, being accepted wouldn't or doesn't really portray Our true Identity. I had a friend one time, he is very intelligent and down to earth from a humble home but he would rather hang out with the "cool and happening guys" in school than be his real humble self. He tried sooo hard to be accepted that he ended up worse than the rest of his gang.

For me,these are what one must put in check to stand out(Please Note, these are just my opinions);

1. First and foremost understand that "being your own celeb" shouldn't make you Rebellious(and i mean that in a bad way- you might not be among the crowd but that doesn't mean you don't care about what's happening in the crowd *that might look sad and crazy.

A rebel

2. Find and recognize where your interest lies- this in-turn means one should try out new things, explore and be adventurous (though safety and integrity must be in check). This enables you to find out where your interest lies, what you like and what you don't want. Fore instance, I've had friends who were extreme Tomboys before but are now very Ladylike(I'm sure they changed their mind after lipstick trial, lol). Don't be a bandwagon find what interest you! Go to new places, taste new food, play a different sport, try something new.

3. Mistakes are good! (sometimes)- On this one, i think i come first. I've made several mistakes one way or the other (you don't wanna know) but the point is, i don't remain in my mistakes rather i learn from them. I believe every mistake is a learning curve. Some mistakes are very costly though, so be careful of the kind of mistakes you make ooo lols.

4. Set out to achieve something- I use to tell people that "fulfillment does not come by buying all the riches in the world but by making yourself better for the positive purpose of other people"*feeling like Mandela lols. Set out to achieve different goals no matter how small, their achievement brings fulfillment. (Please make your goals reasonable)

5.Tell yourself the truth- This is one big bridge i had to cross, i had to learn to admit the truth to myself at all time. Telling yourself the truth means you are still in contact with your conscience and the innocence within. It also puts you in check when you're trailing off track.

6.Appreciate and Celebrate yourself- Part of appreciating yourself is being where you're appreciated rather than where you're tolerated. Another thing is, celebrating your little successes and achievements. Feel free to laugh and dance at yourself for yourself. "if you don't take care of yourself, who will?" Go out on lone dates, buy new things for yourself, don't wait for anyone to feel celebrated and appreciated.

7. Do the Mirror test- this i learnt from my bestie, he put up a mirror in front of me one day and asked me to look at myself. I was shy at first cos i was trying to adjust myself but he said again "look through the mirror", i couldn't. Guess what! i went home and i looked at myself (thank God i have a full stand mirror in my room) i looked through to see myself.  It was funny and very dumb at first but after a long time of trying, i could see The most beautiful woman God created (blushing). I'm not saying i'm perfect but the mirror test enables you to see you like you should, Beautiful!

I'm sure i've been saying a lot since, but these are my thoughts and they've helped me. Hope they help you too. Once again. feel free to share your thoughts and point of view. Every comment and view is appreciated.

Till another post.... See yaa and feel Fabulous this weekend. Muahhhh....
Olufunke

Be your own Celeb- continues

Hello My Celebrities,

Its Friday... yeah i know! "TGIF things" *don't mind me* First of all.... *you know the rest, lols, thank you for reading my posts and i really do appreciate your comments.

Ok, like i said in my last post for one reason or the other, everyone deserves to be celebrated and recognized. Hence why everyone to me is a "Celeb. Being your own Celeb is not copying another person's way of life or style, its all about being the best of You *simple. The people tagged as celebrities as defined by oxford dictionary are people who have done exceptionally well in being Themselves. One thing that i found out recently is that being yourself actually brings out the Star in you, it stands you out of the crowd and obviously you'll be different. (you'll sometimes be called Weird too *covers face)

my friend thinks i'm weird

My point is you've got to be yourself and enjoy the real you. *Please don't get my saying "you need some level weirdness" to be something that scare people oo lols

like our friend here

or like these guys

*looool.... don't mind me. I'm sure they were trying to be different or do their own thing but they got it so wrong.

Being yourself is as good as seeing yourself as Beautiful in and out, whether you're slim (not anorexic oo, you will need to work on that), Bold and Beautiful (not fat and obese, you will need to work on that too, its not healthy), tall, short, fair, black, Oyinbo(not the bleached skin) whichever way you are, trust me you're the best there is of you. Rather than trying to be someone else, make yourself better.

Take your fashion style for instance (i love fashion and style), is a way of showing your inner beauty. Your style attracts the Right people to you, it portrays the real You you want people to see and in my case (i'm special) it makes me happy. 

I'm sure a lot of people will be thinking "oh i have to start shopping" or "oh its too expensive to the stylish" or "please my own is sha to cover my nudity", my answer is being stylish is not expensive rather it requires Creativity ( a touch of you) and two(2) style is a reflection of who you are.

You need not to start thinking of following trend to be stylish and be you (but you can if you know how to) style is not so difficult, its being (My advice);

1. Clean- wear clean cloths and undies, ironed clothes but not all attires require ironing 

2. Personal Hygiene- Neat hair cut, neat hair styles for the ladies(not the overdue styles) , proper manicured and pedicured nails (gosh some guys are guilty of this) and shave the "shaveables" lols

3. Dress appropriately- wear clothes and undies that fits (not undersized or oversized), wear what suits occasions, avoid color riot that can cause "color blindness" (and other trends that can cause havoc) lol

"sexy aint trashy"

more like it

4.Wear your own statement- don't be someone else, "style is creativity, create your own"

don't be like this Rihanna wannabe

5. Smell nice- most importantly smell good, even if you can't afford statement perfumes, use affordable body spray and after shave *for the guys (a nice smell attracts too)

6. "Shop according to your pocket"- it also doesn't mean to buy cheap "aba popular items". Buy lasting and quality pieces that stand the test of trends.

7. Accessorize properly- don't overwhelm yourself with blings "less is more"

8. Wear appropriate make-up 

*helll NO

9. Wear a smile- you biggest makeup and accessory 

Gosh! i have so much to say but lemme end here(part2) by saying your style is an outward reflection of who you are and you wouldn't want to create a wrong impression of who you are. Its also just one my tips to "being your own celeb".

Till my next post (i'll also be sharing how being someone else can negatively affect you)  ....... enjoy the weekend

Odaabo, Kachifo nu, saigobe *hope i got the spelling right, you know what i mean sha, lols

See ya

Olufunke

Be your own Celeb.

Hello friends,

Hope the week seem smooth so far(though its just Wednesday), mine has been quiet interesting. So this lovely Wednesday, everyone is a "Celebrity" *yayyyy

Did a little questioning, Who is a Celebrity?
And Oxford Dictionary described "A celebrity as a Famous person in entertainment or sport";

Tiwa Savage

but according to Your's truly *takes a bow*, everyone is a "Celebrity". Everyone deserves to be celebrated, recognized, appreciated and ....... *fill in the blank* for one thing or the other, simple!
Its unfortunate the way the status "celebrity" is now coveted in Nigeria (and the World) and the morales these Celebs exhudes is quiet alarming and as far as i'm concerned not so good. But after a long thought process, i told myself, I should also be celebrated. Why?
I'm one of a kind and there can only be one unique ME.

*i lie?

If for the singular fact that my finger and tongue print don't match with anyone else makes me unique. I talk my own way, dress my own way, own my own dreams and above all "i'm wonderfully and fearfully made" says The Almighty God. *blushes.

Seriously, i've truly had enough of "i want to be like this..." i want to have a nose like that..." why can't other people be like me too. I remember a long time ago (story story.. story!), i so wanted to be like someone whose name i won't mention. I didn't like the way i looked, my height, my body size and so on.  I wasn't happy and i couldn't really be myself infact there were days i would look at myself and cry, those days weren't funny, seriously! Friends called me different names (OMG they are so horrible i don't want to mention them), made fun of me and it really did't help my self esteem i must say. Long story short, my "redemption"came through the day my mum told me of Psalm 139 verse 14 *please read* and fortunately for me it coincided with the day Agbani Darego was crowned the first black Miss World. That day my mum caught me crying, she asked just one question, "so what position did you hold in your last exams compared to the position of the people making jest of you held"? *that's the people calling me names. I blabbed for a while and wiped my face. By night i watched the Miss World crowned Miss Agbani Darego, i cried so much you'd think i won the crown.

I guess the point she was trying to make simply was that my beauty at that time should not be judged by what peers said of me but what i see and believe within me. From that point till date i became free to be Me and Love Me. Though i'm a success story in the making, the process has been rough but trust me it has been worth it.

So  back to my point, everyone should be celebrated and we shouldn't make some people seem the almighty Celebrity and in turn get less than what we deserve or even feel so intimated to start chasing how to be like them.

 It was a gradual process to get here though the journey still continues (and i'm not even close) but i'm way better than who i was and i believe "a Celebrity" lies in everyone waiting for the spotlight. 

This is just a preamble *feeling like a prof* please follow this page to get the full details of the journey so far. As always, hope you got one or two things from this post and please i do appreciate your comments and opinions, they are not just for me, someone, somewhere needs what you have to say to be a Celeb.

oya oya issokay..... lols. See you soon *plenty ((Hugs))

Photo Courtesy: Bella naija, Facebook, Google

Be a Friend to have a Friend (part2)

wow wow wow... i'm so overwhelmed with the replies, comments and encouragements as regards my previous posts. All your comments (and those directed to me personally) are all appreciated and i promise to always share more helpful tips as they've also helped me. So, "back to the matter" (in my bobo wizkid's voice) *continuation from my last post;

5. Have mutual respect.
Mutual respect is key in all relationships especially to maintain and sustain friendships. Like i usually tell people, "respect is reciprocal" because mutual respect is important, it should not be expected but given accordingly. Another twist to this is that, one must first of all have Self Respect "you can't get what you don't give.

Mariam Oremi OMV, Yemisi Oremi Olowo and Me

Its easy to say respect is only required when a party is older than the other but its almost not true all the time. Being a friend should not be determined by age, in fact if you look at age differences you wouldn't want to be friends with some people which can also make you lose the gains of being friends with them. Respect yourself, air your mind *when needed and know your boundaries. Shikena!

6. Effective communication.

This i had to learn by force by fire *lols. Most time, people assume a lot and almost everyone is guilty of this. We assume because we're friends with someone they should know us or know whatever we are thinking or have in mind, which could lead to a lot of unresolved misunderstanding. It's very important to communicate, which can be in various ways. Like me for example, i had to learn to talk and discuss my opinion rather than assume and keep things in my mind. Assumption breeds a lot of misunderstandings, fights and end of friendship. 

Find time to talk and discuss (especially during misunderstanding) as this makes the other person know your mindset and know you better.

Note- Please endeavor not raise your voice and communicate in the manner your friend will best understand to avoid *fight round two(2) lols.

7. Be quick to say- I'm sorry!, Thank you!.

It as simple as that. Don't wait for the other party to say those two words (as situation demands). Its very common among us ladies whenever issues or misunderstanding arises we always wait till it escalates or we wait till our friends say sorry. I personally think, no-one should wait to say either of those words as it doesn't show any sign of weakness like some people would think, rather it shows a high level of maturity and self respect.

In summary, i think having a friend and being a friend is the next best thing to happen to anyone after the family. They are the people that understand the real you, make you a better person (as you learn and develop each other), they are there always and they just have your back. 

I hope these few tips would at least be a starting point to achieve great friendship (and please ignore my typos if any *covers face). Lest i forget, I've got lots lots and lots of friends, different shapes, age and sizes *seriously for real! lols. 

Tayo My Oga, Temi small mummy, Niyi boo and Me

Dupe and Bola Bello *my runaway friend

Funmi and Adey *Amazing cousins

Mariam, Ada, Yours truly and Dolly P

awww Iceman and Temi *small dad and small mummy besties

Please feel free to share your own tips to "be a friend to have a friend'.

 I remain my humble self Olufunke. Do have a Friendship Fulfilling week. *muahhhh

Be a Friend to have a Friend

I noticed a lot of young people complain one way or the other of their "cliq" as bad friends, most especially the ladies. We have all in one way or the other made that "bad" friend that has shattered our trust and has also hurt us but guess what! all these can actually be avoided and you can have trustworthy friends.

Dupe and Funke 

For example- Dupe and I. 

Our story-  i've known Dupe for three(3)years now and i can tell you for free that it has been an extremely fun and sometimes an "unpleeeaaasureable"(had to stress that). Met her on my first day at my NYSC(PPA)/internship place *don't ask where* lolz

Duuduu is such a nice babe

She has a car, i don't. We stay close, she gives me a ride to and fro *how sweet shey. Anyway, long story short, Dupe is not the nicest person on a good day but she's still my friend.

 The question is, how did we get here or how did i conclude Dupe is my friend?- 

1. I never hid myself. 

I realized most young people are pressurized directly or indirectly to be accepted by our peers. We don't want to be the weirdo or the "unfun" person so we become who we are not, we PRETEND to like what they like and so on. Had to emphasis Pretend cos with pretence, we exhibit who we are not and what we are not.  At the end of the day, this brings disappointments and distrust from those friends and it hurts. *trust me it hurts real bad. Be accepted for who you are, not for what you have; those who like you will be stay and does who don't will obviously leave. (AKA sifting the wheat from the shaft). 

2. Take time to know the other person or people as the case may be.

Desola and I

Have known Desola since my university days at ACU (Ajayi Crowther University, Oyo) *don't mind me, i"m proud of my alma mata*. Anyway, Desola also is not a perfect person (which i don't expect) but it took me a long time to call that babe- Desola my friend. I didn't jump to conclude that because we hangout together and sometime share same interest meant i've found a friend in her. I took time to know her, watch her closely and often time, forgive her when she hurts me (*lolz as if i don't hurt her too).

3. Forgive and don't jump to conclusions.

As we get to know this other individual or persons, we tend to fight and have misunderstandings. Like a yoruba adage that says "oremeji tio ti ja, iro ni won pa fun rawon" -English translation- Two friends that have not had a fight are just fooling each other (hope i got the translation right). So, to make friends and be a friend, make room for misunderstandings and be ready to forgive and learn from it. CAUTION- please take enough time to cool off and think about the cause of the fight and have a re-think again if you still want to be friends with that person.

4. Create time for each other. 

Mind you when i say creating time for each other does not mean you forget your own time. 

Desola and I at one of our outings.

The importance of creating time for each other is to get to know this other person, learn and know their opinions and interests. Get to know the Real person in your friend. It can be difficult sometimes to create time especially when you are not students of same school if you're still students or it could be cos of work and other endeavors. It doesn't necessarily mean you have to go out on an expensive date and likes. Feel free to initiate an outing and make the time and venue convenient for the both(all) parties. (i like shopping with my friends, going to the cinemas or just a meal/gists somewhere).

Ok, Ok, i think i'm telling a lot of stories..... To be continued.

*Hope you find my posts interesting and helpful, please feel free to drop a  comment, opinions, thoughts and share the gospel according to Olufunke's way. Do have a lovely weekend.... kisses and hugs.....

First Post

Been trying to do this for a long time now (God knows since when) and yippy... here i am. Olufunke is quiet an inquisitive person, loves knowing and learning new things which fortunately brings me here. 

I believe first impression makes a lasting impression and people can only see and address you the way you want them to. Hopefully, this blog helps you (and i) find your trues self and enjoy the attention or whatever intentions you expect. Lets enjoy this journey to self discovery together and do tell a friend. **winks.