Be a Friend to have a Friend (part2)

wow wow wow... i'm so overwhelmed with the replies, comments and encouragements as regards my previous posts. All your comments (and those directed to me personally) are all appreciated and i promise to always share more helpful tips as they've also helped me. So, "back to the matter" (in my bobo wizkid's voice) *continuation from my last post;

5. Have mutual respect.
Mutual respect is key in all relationships especially to maintain and sustain friendships. Like i usually tell people, "respect is reciprocal" because mutual respect is important, it should not be expected but given accordingly. Another twist to this is that, one must first of all have Self Respect "you can't get what you don't give.

Mariam Oremi OMV, Yemisi Oremi Olowo and Me

Its easy to say respect is only required when a party is older than the other but its almost not true all the time. Being a friend should not be determined by age, in fact if you look at age differences you wouldn't want to be friends with some people which can also make you lose the gains of being friends with them. Respect yourself, air your mind *when needed and know your boundaries. Shikena!

6. Effective communication.

This i had to learn by force by fire *lols. Most time, people assume a lot and almost everyone is guilty of this. We assume because we're friends with someone they should know us or know whatever we are thinking or have in mind, which could lead to a lot of unresolved misunderstanding. It's very important to communicate, which can be in various ways. Like me for example, i had to learn to talk and discuss my opinion rather than assume and keep things in my mind. Assumption breeds a lot of misunderstandings, fights and end of friendship. 

Find time to talk and discuss (especially during misunderstanding) as this makes the other person know your mindset and know you better.

Note- Please endeavor not raise your voice and communicate in the manner your friend will best understand to avoid *fight round two(2) lols.

7. Be quick to say- I'm sorry!, Thank you!.

It as simple as that. Don't wait for the other party to say those two words (as situation demands). Its very common among us ladies whenever issues or misunderstanding arises we always wait till it escalates or we wait till our friends say sorry. I personally think, no-one should wait to say either of those words as it doesn't show any sign of weakness like some people would think, rather it shows a high level of maturity and self respect.

In summary, i think having a friend and being a friend is the next best thing to happen to anyone after the family. They are the people that understand the real you, make you a better person (as you learn and develop each other), they are there always and they just have your back. 

I hope these few tips would at least be a starting point to achieve great friendship (and please ignore my typos if any *covers face). Lest i forget, I've got lots lots and lots of friends, different shapes, age and sizes *seriously for real! lols. 

Tayo My Oga, Temi small mummy, Niyi boo and Me

Dupe and Bola Bello *my runaway friend

Funmi and Adey *Amazing cousins

Mariam, Ada, Yours truly and Dolly P

awww Iceman and Temi *small dad and small mummy besties

Please feel free to share your own tips to "be a friend to have a friend'.

 I remain my humble self Olufunke. Do have a Friendship Fulfilling week. *muahhhh